Alexi Lubomirski Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle

Engagement season is in full swing so it’s a perfect time to review the proper etiquette for announcing your engagement in order to avoid any hurt feelings!

This is the proper order of who should be told first and how:

First – Children

If you or your fiancé have children, it’s important to tell them first as they are getting a new stepparent. They should be told individually and by their parent so that they are comfortable expressing their honest feelings about the upcoming changes.

Second – Parents

Traditionally, the bride’s parents are to be told first, followed immediately by the groom’s parents. It is always best to tell your parents in person, however, if they live farther away, a phone call or skype is acceptable. If you, unfortunately, do not have a great relationship with your parents, a letter telling them the good news may be a stepping stone to mending the relationship! Happiness is contagious!

Third – Siblings, grandparents, and close relatives

Take a moment to think about who would be hurt the most if not told immediately and start with them. You may also consider having a family dinner party and announcing the news to everyone at once to avoid any such hurt feelings. It’s always great coming together as a family and celebrating something truly wonderful!

Fourth – Friends and extended family

This is the time you would share the news with anyone you wouldn’t want to find out by seeing your engagement selfie on social media.  Phone calls are appropriate, but is always dependent on the relationship you have with each individual.

Fifth – Social Media

Before you post your engagement selfie on social media, do a mental check to make sure no one was missed. According to Brides.com, the most gracious way of showing off your ring is by posting a picture of your left hand that also includes you and your fiancé. After all, he did pop the question and is as excited as you are about the news!

Make sure that your manicure is on point and your hand is moisturized as it will be a focal point. There are so many great ways to announce the engagement, and in my next post I will share some creative examples to help you style your announcement picture!

XO,

Jessica